Love is blind? I don't think so..

 Love is blind? I don't think so..

by Marie Bernadette delos Santos

10/28/2010

  

"Love is blind." 

Blah. Blah. Blah. It's such a cliche saying that love is blind when it actually isn't. It sees the imperfections of the other and yet it chooses to be silent. Why is that so? It's because we LOVE that person, along with loving comes accepting. Acceptance of his/her shortcomings and flaws. We come to love someone, not because he/she is perfect, but because we love them for an unexplainable reason. No one is perfect. Yes. But love makes us understand and accept that person the way he/she is the same way that we would want to be treated the same. It's not love if you change that person, you're only fooling yourself if you want that person to be the 'IDEAL' partner because no, there will never be a person who would fulfill all the qualities of the partner who came from the figment of your imagination. There is only REALITY - reality that someday, somehow, no matter how perfect you think your partner is, his/her true colors will show and you would have nothing but disappointment because that person is not your 'ideal' partner. We love someone for who they are, not for who we want them to be. It won't be real if your partner would choose to change for you so that you would be happy. This is just short term, because no matter how he/she changes his/her qualities for you, the REAL him/her will show.

Acceptance is the key to this. Love is NEVER blind. It only seems as though it is blind simply because it chooses to accept the other as he/she is. With the acceptance of the reality that there is no ideal partner who is perfect and the acceptance of the other's flaw, one could be sure that he/she is at the right path, with the right person who also loves you for who you are.

Attached.

I had my Surgical Ward Duty @ RPH. It was a different experience. I knew we would be 'toxic' because I kept on hearing comments from groups who had their duties there but I never knew that this would be a rotation where I would be so attached to my patient that I cried when I heard something bad had happened. My patient was a really nice person. He was always smiling even though he was in pain. He has been my patient for 2 weeks, and for 2 weeks, I know that I've done what I could and all the nurses have done every step that they could to save his life. The last time I saw him was last Friday. When we went back for our last duty, I thought he was in the Operating Room, and for the first time in my life, I was happy and willing to be taking his Vital Signs every 15 minutes simply because it was HIM. Then I heard the bad news, he was rushed downstairs because he found it hard to breathe and he already had sepsis. At first, I wasn't crying until I remembered his smile. He was like my grandfather - always smiling, funny and kind. You know that warm feeling you get when someone genuinely smiles at you? I felt that way every time I entered the diabetic ward. Hearing what happened to him, I felt like I lost someone important. I don't know how nurses become 'immune' from seeing some people pass away and I don't know if I'll ever be able to be 'immune' as well. One thing I'll never forget is how pure his kindness was and how his smile brought out the smile in everyone's faces.

Handsy :)

Just something I wrote while I was waiting for TF and Elaine to finish their Econ Exam.

In my dream, there's no one but you and me
And when we're together, your hands touch mine
There's this magnetic feeling that I feel when our hands touch
Such a strong magnet that I never want to let go of your hand
There's a feeling of security I get when you hold my hand
No words could translate how I feel when your fingers fill up the spaces between mine
It's as if my hands were missing a piece of a puzzle
Then you showed up and filled up the missing piece and made it a masterpiece
As my hand touches your hand,
My heart can't stop fluttering,
Knocking me, as though it were saying, "Don't let go of him"
And as our fingers interlock,
So is my heart that's locked for anyone but YOU.. :)

- by Marie Bernadette delos Santos (ME) haha *BOW*

Photo from Google Images

♥ my friends :D

Friends come and go, that's what they say but this saying does not apply to me. Yes, we've been through a lot. Crazy times, emotional times and the times when we get mad at each other because of misunderstandings. And yet, here we are, still the very best of friends. It's true when they say that you don't need a lot of friends, you just need a few 'true friends' who will always be there with you, physically or spiritually present. They're the ones who know the real me and I truly appreciate their presence in my life. I love you all! ♥

"Friends are siblings that God forgot to give you." ☺

Sweet :)

I was chatting with my friend and I was asking him if he was still writing poems and stories. He told me that he has a lot of ideas but he was too busy to publish them. Then he suddenly thought of something for me:

"A face which my eyes cannot draw, but my heart can feel you." -Jerone

It's the very first time someone made a short quote for me.

And it's SWEET and THOUGHTFUL :)

Thank you. *BOW*

O yea, BTW, SWAT-->Sana Wag Akong Tamaan ng Major Major :) Haha! 

Random :)

Some random thoughts ;)

Minsan gusto kong kantahin ang Lupang Hinirang sayo, para naman malaman mo na.. "Buhay ay langit sa piling mo" Haha :D

 

‎"When life gives you a Bad Romance, show everyone your Poker Face, buy a new Telephone and call Alejandro and you guys just dance!" -Lady G. :) sabaaaaww. :))

 

Di na uso ang heart broken. BRAIN BROKEN naman! MS+OR = 0_0 two majors in a roooooowww. Sleep deprivation related to deficient lakwatcha as manifested by kasipagan sa pag aaral. HAHAHAHAHAHHA :))))

 

"I WISH THAT I'M THE LAST THING ON YOUR MIND BEFORE YOU GO TO SLEEP. :)" - NCM notes

 

I.M.B.A = Ikaw Mas Bagay sa Akin! :))))) sabaw.

 

"The youth is the hope of our future." - Rizal. But, where's the hope in our quiz  when there's no lecture? 

 

Sometimes, a heart cannot afford to be just friends :)

 

MEN-opause, MEN-strual pain, MEN-tal illness, GUY-necologist, HIS-terectomy EVER NOTICED HOW WOMENS PROBLEMS START WITH MEN? :) Hahaha!

 

UNLITXT, SULITXT, IMMORTALTXT.. Mas matipid pa din ang PA-TEXT.

 

"pwede bng manligaw?" "oo basta wag lng sakin"

 

One thing I miss about PGMA: She often extends our vacation as well as she extends her vacation too, going to the other country, wasting our money! :))))

 

Katulad din kami ni Agua, di mabubuhay ng walang tubig. :/ 

 

MU - Machong Unano

 

Bernadette delos Santos is in a relationship with studies and its
complicated. :)

 

Advice from dentist: "Treat your girl/boy like a toothbrush. Dont let anybody use it ;)

 

You are suffering from lack of Vitamin ME! :)))))))

 

Para kang ulan. Bigla nalang nawawala, bigla din dumadating. SHOCKING!:))) I love rainy days! :)

 

If loving me is wrong, you can never be right! ;)

 

My bed is possessive. Every morning it doesn't want me to leave. :P

You have a lot of choices. If getting out of bed in the morning is a chore and you're not smiling, try another choice.. Read MedSurg book!

pag exam wag ka mag-review, para pag bumagsak ka ok lang. Kaysa pag nagreview ka tapos bagsak ka, edi malulungkot ka --Sir Dulay :)

The love of my life ♥

Let me share with y'all something that makes my heart and STOMACH happy and contented --> FOOD :)

Haha. This is just a random thought for my blog post. I've always loved eating, I don't know why they're telling me I'm underweight. Haha ☺ Anyway, I'll just post here my Top 10 Favorite fast foods and restaurants from Appetizers to Desserts :)

#10: KFC's French Fries :) Haha, I discovered recently a cheaper alternative to KFC's fries and that is Frenchies' Zesty Fries.


#9: BK's Mushroom swiss and DQ's Double Chocolate ice cream (Combo talaga yan :p)


#8: My Thai restuarant's Tom Yum. Ambiance was fair but the space was too small.

#7: TGI Friday's Caesar Salad and La Creperie's Strawberry Crepe. La Creperie's place was very attractive and the crepes were good.

#6: Conti's Pastry Shop and Restaurant's Tofu, Chicken Pastel and Mango salad. Con here was that it wasn't well ventilated, the food was good though.


#5: Il Pirata's Seafood pasta, Pesto and Pizza del Pirata. Makes me feel like I'm on a cruise. With a pirate statue and the chairs look like a pirate's chair. Arr! :)

#4: Fluke restaurant @ A-Venue - Loved their fish and chips so much!



#3: Las Paellas @ Greenhills' Promenade Mall - Paella Valenciana. You'd have to wait for 30 minutes then it only took me 10 minutes to finish eating the dish :D

#2: Holy Cow @ Trinoma - Their Fish and chips was the best fish and chips I've tried so far. They served me with 3 huge portions of fish fillets with a mountain of fries. The beef ribs were also delicious but since I was so focused on eating my fish and chips, I didn't pay too much attention on the ribs and other dishes. Spacious restaurant with a huge cow sofa at the front of the restaurant.

 #1: Cyma's Seafood Swordfish Kebab, Beef Shank Spaghetti, Shrimp pasta with Feta cheese, Greek chicken adobo and their saganaki (flaming cheese).
-->Okay, I didn't eat all of these ALONE. I had a lot of people I shared these with :) Haha. HUGE portions! I mean really HUGE. Haha! I also love eating here because everytime we order Saganaki, they would always perform and that just really lifts my mood. They all scream OPA everytime the fire is lit. That would make your table a center of attention. Haha :) The place was also very nice, makes me feel like eating in Greece.

 

 

 
 Of course, my most favorite of all would be anything that my mom or my dad makes :)

Blood Donation :)

Blood Donation? I thought that I would never be asked to donate blood ever since I've been exempted to donate when I was still studying at my previous school. Blood is thicker than water, when I heard that my aunt needed 4 units of blood, I did not hesitate to volunteer because she was someone who was important in my life. And so I asked permission from our professor in Western Civilization, Mr. Cuartero, that I be excused from our class because I had to go to Veterans Hospital to donate blood. My dad accompanied me to the hospital and we reached the hospital at around 3:00. We went straight to the Blood Bank department. I had to fill out this form, answer questions and POOF. In the end, I was rejected. Not because I had a communicable disease, not because I was hypertensive, but because I was underweight. There were a lot of people who were donating their blood and I was the only one who was not allowed to donate blood on the 1st screening just because I was underweight. And then we went to my aunt's room and paid her a visit. It was my first time to actually see the anesthesiologist perform Pre-Op teaching and she was really entertaining questions from my aunt and I. It was also my first time to see a nurse get the informed consent.The OB-Oncologist also visited and asked where my aunt was getting blood because there was no available Blood Type O stock. My aunt told her that one was rejected (ME) then the doctor asked "Sino? Itong batang to? E mukha ngang siya pa may kailangan ng dugo e." Then we all laughed. :)

Blood Donation Part 2 was a FAIL again. Haha. I was rejected before because of my weight and now, rejected again because of the same reason. 

KC :)

     This post is about my nephew's hospitalization :) I woke up and found the house completely empty. No one was there. No one woke me up to tell me that my nephew has been brought to the hospital. I still had a 7:30 class to attend to and I was already looking forward to our dismissal so that I could visit my nephew. I asked my truest friend, Kristine, to accompany me to the hospital so that we could also do our video resume there. I felt that I was partly responsible for the development of his disease because I had my hospital duty when he got sick. But then, no one could prevent airborne particles from spreading right? :P He has been confined for 4 days and during these days, I've realized how much I've wanted to be a pediatrician. I've always loved taking care of children who are both well and sick. I don't know if I'll pursue this realization of mine since 6 more years of studying feels like going back to 2nd year high school. But then, a dream will become a reality if I work hard for it.

If we ever meet again..

"If we ever meet again.." 

"If we see each other again"

This statement is something that'll leave anyone with a question mark at the back of their minds. I never knew what this statement meant in whole. It's a conditional statement, I never knew what he would do if we did meet again. I've already moved on, but just as any person who was left with this 'unfinished' statement, I was curious. Obviously,I would've wanted that statement to end with something like this: "If we ever meet again, I would never leave you like I did before, I would always be here for you, I would never let you go." Oh well. Haha. Take me with you to London or go back to the Philippines :P

If you were to say this phrase, how would you want to end it? Post your thoughts here ☺

Confused but happy :)

Yii. Na-inspire lang magsulat ng blog kahit pagod from duty sa Morong (haaaabbbbaaa ng biyahe). Haha :) 

I just got home nung nabasa ko yung status 'niya'. I decided na mag-comment. Ayun, ngayon lang niya nalaman na I transferred school. Kaya daw pala hindi na nya ko nakikita sa school. I felt very very very happy. Si 'niya' ay si crush ko nung summer nung nasa FEU pa ako. Haha, just like any teen, I thought he was my soulmate. I could remember pa nung nag-enroll ako for summer nun, sinumpa sumpa ko yung alphabetically arranged yung sectioning. So puro kami 'D' sa room.

First day of classes. Speech yung 1st subject. We had to do this practical exam na i-act mo yung isang expression. Binigay saken yung expression na "Oh no!" and I had to say the expression in different emotions. Una, galit, then happy, then baliw. Tawanan lang lahat nun. Parang baliw lang talaga ako nun. Last na emotion na I had to portray was love. Haha, IDK why pero napatingin ako sa kanya nun :P Everytime makikipagkwentuhan ako sa mga kaklase ko, lagi siyang titingin sakin then magssmile sa mga knkwento ko. Ugh, weakness ko yung smile. Haha, sa sobrang daldal ko nun kasi naging kaclose ko yung mga classmates ko, eventually, naging close kami.

I thought he was 'the one' kasi his birthday was 2 days after mine. April 25 ako, 27 siya (babaw eh no?). We learned from each other na we came from the same province, same city, same street pero syempre hindi same house. Haha ☺ We had a lot of things in common - likes and dislikes, and he was really nice. Pero ayun, ang sarap rin balikan ng mga memories. Super bilis nung summer but it was filled with happy memories. Part of those memories was those spent with him. He'll always be one of my closest guy friends. May kilig part pa rin but not the same as yung kilig nung summer. Still, it makes me happy. Haha :)

Clean at last :)

Ayun, I just finished cleaning my bed. :) Took me a long time para maayos siya with all the stuff toys. Haha, almost half ng bed inooccupy na ng mga dolls. Yung maliit na space dun o, yun nalang space para sakin :P Haha to think na, wala pa sa kalahati ng mga dolls ko yung dolls sa cabinet. Haha! Hindi naman yata pwedeng lahat sila pahihigain ko sa bed then ako na yung nasa cabinet right? Haha :) Anyway, sa pic may sparkles, ganyan kalinis yan. LOL. Successfully ko naayos yan even though ginugulo ako ng nephew ko :P IDK, I think dahil bunso ako, I only had toys to play with inside the house. 9 years ang gap ko sa sister ko and 12 years sa oldest sister ko. So ayun, favorite ko yung Keroppi. Yung liit dun sa may baba ng pillow ko, my super favorite stuff toy. Most dolls bigay ng parents ko :) Yung iba, galing sa friends ko. Yung iba galing sa 'pasts'. ☺ Some nakuha ko sa SM Manila (endorsement? :P). Alam nyo yung sa mga timezones na parang 'sinisipit' yung dolls? Dun. Haha yun yung stress reliever namin ng classmates ko sa FEU nun every break time. Almost naaddict kami nun and we called ourselves, "Catchaholics" Haha. We would buy 2 tokens muna baka sakaling swertehin. Then pag nakahuli na, bibili ulit. Haha. I treasure each doll I receive, may names pa nga sila e. Weird no? I believe kasi na each one holds a specific memory. Galing man yan sa mom, dad, sister, pinsan, friend or lover mo. Yii, cheesy lang :P I thank you. *BOW* (Crazy lang) :P Therapeutic din pala maglinis e? May nakita akong CP and money. Haha every week gagawin ko na ito :)

When life throws stones at you..

A month ago, life was pretty normal. Besides the fact that we were reminiscing my nephew's 1st death anniversary, I've always thought that nothing could ever shock me more than his death. But then, life is pretty much full of surprises. It strikes you when you think you're recovering from all the pain. What's worse is the fact that I thought that I would be numb from any more pain, no morphine could hide the pain. 

And then the phone rang. It was my Uncle, he delivered the news that he was diagnosed of having Colon Cancer. The doctor told him that it was Stage 3. Thankfully, my Uncle who lived in the US told my uncle to eat Guyabano. After he was diagnosed of having a 90% blockage from the tumor, it became 80% after eating Guyabano.

Then it struck me like lightning, it was exactly a year ago when my nephew died from sepsis secondary to a congenital disease. It was a nosocomial infection. It made me realize that even if a person is confined in Medical City, it wouldn't guarantee the best possible service it could provide. It shocked me that my Uncle wanted to be treated at Medical City even after the incident with my nephew. It was the doctor's fault. I blamed the doctor. We all did. He didn't give the antibiotics when my nephew obviously needed it. My Aunt is suing the doctor right now, but in my mind is the question, "Mababalik ba nito yung buhay ni AJ? Mawalan man ng license yung doctor, wala na si AJ. Wala na." Then I would reminisce the times I've spent with him. He's my nephew, we were of the same age. We graduated together, I would help him whenever he would get in trouble, which by the way was very often. His life was as fast as lightning - you see him then he disappears. Just like that, after 9 months of growing your baby inside your womb, after years of taking good care of your child, making sure that even a mosquito won't bite him, within a span of minutes, and after mistakes made by the medical team, your child loses his life. Just like that.

I don't want to risk my Uncle's life by letting him get treated at Medical City. Again. No. I won't let that happen. But my Uncle told my Dad, "Kung pangit pa sa Medical City, paano pa sa mga ibang ospital?" He didn't want to be confined in St. Lukes because my other aunt had some issues when my uncle had some surgery there. Right now, he's still weighing out his options, I'm still hoping that he'll change his mind about the hospital, but if he feels that this hospital would make him better, then I'll support him and definitely be by his side.

As if things couldn't get any worse, yesterday, my aunt told my mom that she had kidney stones and at the same time, Cervical Cancer. Grabe lang, I don't know what I could do. I am a student who's aspiring to be a nurse someday, and yet here I am, watching my loved ones get sick one by one. There's really nothing I could do but show my love and care for them. But then I realized, I might not be a doctor who could CURE them, but I could be a nurse and a niece who CARES.

I'm still shocked by the fact that two of my relatives were diagnosed of having Cancer - the killer disease. Heart disease has always been present in our family. I, myself, have a heart disease, it's not as serious, but I don't take it lightly. I just want this to be an inspiring story to each and every one of us. It might sound like a cliche, but it really is true when people tell you to spend your life as if it were your last. Never forget to show the people around you how much you love and appreciate them, 'coz life's too SHOCKING. I don't blame God for any of these. I actually thank Him for letting me spend time with these people. I ALWAYS believe that a miracle would happen, that's how great God is :)

I Scream for Ice Cream? No.. I go for Yogurt! :)

I've always loved Yogurt (Nestle's Strawberry Yogurt) but recently, I noticed that yogurt shops are everywhere. My sister and I have become addicted to yogurt that whenever there's a store that's selling yogurt, we make sure that we would try it out.

White Hat's Italian Yogurt @SM Marikina

Definitely YUMMY! Tastes like Cream Cheese - flavored ice cream without the guilt. Haha ☺ The only con there was that you'd have to pay an additional 20 pesos for 1 topping. P35 for 2 toppings. But it was definitely worth every cent. I chose to top mine with Peaches and Kiwi

Yogurt Nation @The Fort

It was a self-service yogurt store, so I grabbed the biggest cup and poured it with the Original Yogurt and the Cranberry-flavored yogurt. I topped mine with M&M's, Gummy bears and Chocolate chips. Next, they weighed the cup and it was worth P180. My mom told me to add some more, and I went back to the yogurt machine to add some more plain yogurt into my cup. Then it was weighed and priced again. The taste was delicious, but not as delicious as White Hat's. It had more yogurt compared to White Hat's but I'd go for the quality rather than the quantity.

California Berry @Sta. Lucia

It was DELICIOUS, AFFORDABLE and the good thing here was that included in the price was 3 toppings of your choice. I chose Strawberry, Peach and Kiwi. The fruits were fresh, so it was really healthy and yummy. It's like hitting two birds with one stone. What was also nice was that it comes with a card that will be stamped on every time you purchase from their store and when you've accumulated 10 stamps, you'd get 150-pesos worth of yogurt.

Lulu Belle @Serendra

After having our lunch at Conti's, we immediately went to Lulu Belle's. Haha, addicted much? It was yummy as well, but I wasn't satisfied because the yogurt had a rough texture and the toppings were so few.

Golden Spoon @Shangri-La
It was also yummy. We were stuck in traffic at EDSA, so we decided to stop over at Shangri-la. I remembered they had Golden Spoon so I decided to try it. It was almost the same as White Hat's. It's a must try. It's cheaper and healthier than Haagen-Dazs' ice cream (Definitely cheaper, P170 for 1 scoop? Haha)

Gurts by Pancake House @Gateway
As yummy as White Hat's :) Downside was the toppings. If you're a chocolate lover, you'll enjoy Gurts' toppings. But if you're like me who loves to pick fruits as the topping, then you won't really enjoy it since their fruits are preserved which is a big-NO NO for me :) Haha but then, I could eat the yogurt itself even without a topping ☺ Another downside was it had an 8% service charge so it's another plus plus plus on your bill. Haha.
 

Overall: #1 for California Berry :)

The Little Things..

A lot of people think that to make a girl happy, one must shower her with the grandest of gifts, shower her with praises and sweep off her feet with flowers, chocolates, and teddy bears. But this is not true at all. True, in the sense that girls feel happy when we receive gifts unexpectedly, but that won't last for a lifetime - it's more of the LITTLE things you do for us that make it unforgettable.

This one's not only applicable to boyfriends, it also applies to friends and fathers out there. I can never forget the day my dad bought me my favorite Keroppi stuff toy without asking him to buy me one. I could also remember the day when I was only making side comments about him treating my mom and I for a drink at Starbucks. I thought he was kidding when he said that he would but then he did treat us ☺ I didn't care if my smile was reaching the tip of my ears, it made me so happy.

Now, for the lovers or suitors out there.

Did you know that a simple hug when we're feeling down is all that we needed from you? It would make us feel secure, knowing that you'll always be there for us no matter what.

A hug, for me, makes a huge difference. It means more than a kiss. A hug makes you feel as though you're home and that no one can hurt you. Even a simple text saying that you miss us means the world to us. I'm not saying that these are applicable to all the girls out there. You must also know her likes and dislikes. Each girl is attractively UNIQUE. 

Treat your girl with RESPECT, CARE and LOVE and you will see that she will treat you MORE than that. If opening the door for her or carrying her heavy nursing books makes you think it will make her happy, then a little muscle action won't hurt, will it? Think of it as a way of showing your love for her, without spending a dime. Most guys think of us as materialistic, but NO, this is not true, it's the little things that make our heart beat faster and slower at the same time. It's the little things that take up most of the spaces in our hearts and in our minds. It's what we treasure the most. ♥

Here's a pic I got from the web about the 31 things to make us smile :)