Love is blind? I don't think so..

 Love is blind? I don't think so..

by Marie Bernadette delos Santos

10/28/2010

  

"Love is blind." 

Blah. Blah. Blah. It's such a cliche saying that love is blind when it actually isn't. It sees the imperfections of the other and yet it chooses to be silent. Why is that so? It's because we LOVE that person, along with loving comes accepting. Acceptance of his/her shortcomings and flaws. We come to love someone, not because he/she is perfect, but because we love them for an unexplainable reason. No one is perfect. Yes. But love makes us understand and accept that person the way he/she is the same way that we would want to be treated the same. It's not love if you change that person, you're only fooling yourself if you want that person to be the 'IDEAL' partner because no, there will never be a person who would fulfill all the qualities of the partner who came from the figment of your imagination. There is only REALITY - reality that someday, somehow, no matter how perfect you think your partner is, his/her true colors will show and you would have nothing but disappointment because that person is not your 'ideal' partner. We love someone for who they are, not for who we want them to be. It won't be real if your partner would choose to change for you so that you would be happy. This is just short term, because no matter how he/she changes his/her qualities for you, the REAL him/her will show.

Acceptance is the key to this. Love is NEVER blind. It only seems as though it is blind simply because it chooses to accept the other as he/she is. With the acceptance of the reality that there is no ideal partner who is perfect and the acceptance of the other's flaw, one could be sure that he/she is at the right path, with the right person who also loves you for who you are.

Attached.

I had my Surgical Ward Duty @ RPH. It was a different experience. I knew we would be 'toxic' because I kept on hearing comments from groups who had their duties there but I never knew that this would be a rotation where I would be so attached to my patient that I cried when I heard something bad had happened. My patient was a really nice person. He was always smiling even though he was in pain. He has been my patient for 2 weeks, and for 2 weeks, I know that I've done what I could and all the nurses have done every step that they could to save his life. The last time I saw him was last Friday. When we went back for our last duty, I thought he was in the Operating Room, and for the first time in my life, I was happy and willing to be taking his Vital Signs every 15 minutes simply because it was HIM. Then I heard the bad news, he was rushed downstairs because he found it hard to breathe and he already had sepsis. At first, I wasn't crying until I remembered his smile. He was like my grandfather - always smiling, funny and kind. You know that warm feeling you get when someone genuinely smiles at you? I felt that way every time I entered the diabetic ward. Hearing what happened to him, I felt like I lost someone important. I don't know how nurses become 'immune' from seeing some people pass away and I don't know if I'll ever be able to be 'immune' as well. One thing I'll never forget is how pure his kindness was and how his smile brought out the smile in everyone's faces.